Telling people that you are in a long-distance relationship – let me tell ya, not my favorite thing. All those well-meaning sorry and sympathetic looks you get as a response are a clear sign of people mostly perceiving the distance between two people being as a barrier for a “real” love-relationship. Sure, having the Atlantic Ocean between you and your partner is not all rainbows and unicorns, but it has its moments, too. And for me, these moments get me through whatever hardships the distance brings.
- The extra distance makes me value the simplest things more than ever. I am not able to do the smallest things like hold hands, cook a meal or take a walk with my partner on a daily basis, which means that when I finally do, it feels extra-special.
- The commitment that the distance brings has made me even more certain about the relationship. If we can do this, we can do anything!
- I have learned to value the feeling of missing someone – and how flattering is it that there is someone who also misses you every day? Knowing how to cope with negative feelings is crucial in life, and a relationship is a safe place to practice.
- I have learned to be an individual in a relationship. The distance forces me to have my own interests and a close group of friends.
- Finally, there is always something to look forward to. I am always excitedly planning on a trip to go meet my partner or waiting for him to come over to meet me. And when we do – well, see my first point.
It is easy to dwell in the feeling of loneliness, but the thing is that you are not alone. A long-distance relationship can be just as meaningful a way of being together as any.
The key is to recognize all the good the relationship brings.