For most, being in a relationship means sharing your everyday life with another person. In a long-distance relationship, however, this can be tricky, especially if you happen to live in completely different time zones. And I mean COMPLETELY! I for one am already waking up when my partner has just gone to bed. Wishing good morning in the evening, wishing good morning back and waiting for a reply for the next nine hours has become our daily routine. But what about all the things that happen during those ten hours? I want to share those, too!
Frankly, I shamelessly bombard my boyfriend with messages throughout the day and expect nothing less from him when I am the one sleeping. The mornings are much nicer when I get to read about how his day was after I went to bed. Yes, I know it is not a perfect substitute for waking up next to him but I’ll take it!
And I have to say that waiting for his response for hours and hours has taught me patience, and that is exactly what I need in this era of instant gratification. It has also taught me to respect his time: I know he will reply whenever he has the opportunity to do that. I don’t expect him to be on his phone all the time ready to text me because I want him to have a life of his own.
It is not like I wait around for a response all day or report every minor detail of my life. I go to work, go to school, work out, clean, eat and do all sorts of stuff that I may or may not talk about. And that is ok. Even though sharing bits and pieces might help you both to more vividly visualize what the other person’s daily life is like, being in a long-distance relationship doesn’t mean that you have to constantly be reporting what you are up to. It is easy to take a snapshot of your life here and there, but constant texting might prevent you both from fully enjoying the things happening around you and perhaps give rise to negative feelings.
So sometimes it is good to focus on quality over quantity and take your time to think about what you want to say. Also, setting some guidelines might be helpful, so that you both know what to expect: some people like to be tagging their loved ones on cat videos all day long and some like to send long meaningful messages once a day – choose the way you feel comfortable with!